When we attempt to find relief from our insecurities, pain, or any form of emotional discomfort with a momentary relieving behavior like porn, impulsive shopping, or working to stay busy, we actually remove ourselves from a vulnerable and intimate place where God would like to emotionally come in and fill us with the comfort and stillness we need.
In a way then, pain is a gateway into the comfort and kindness of God.
Today, before you reach out and act impulsively, slow down to breathe. See if you're desire is multi-layered and try to understand what's really pushing you to do something you might regret. But most importantly, slow down and let God in.