How motivation works

Have you ever wondered if there’s a universal structure that explains why humans do what we do and why we want what we want?  Is there any organization to the underlying force within us driving our behavior?

If you're familiar with Psychological theories, then you likely have heard of Maslow's hierarchy of needs.  He set out to study this very topic.  In studying human motivation, he developed a theory of 5 basic needs (or goals) that according to his research drive and influence almost all human behavior. 

In his famous paper, A Theory on Human Motivation, he claimed that in order to understand our motivations, we must look not just at our motivated behaviors, which is a nearly endless list, but at the goal under our motivations. In the end, he found only 5 underlying universal needs that encompass the goal of almost every behavior we could act out:

Need 1) Physiological health

The need for normal biological functions that sustain one's life, including but not isolated to hunger, rest, sex, and so on.

Need 2) Safety 

The need for an organized, safe, and predictable world where one can abide freely without the fear of harm, pain, lack, and danger.

Need 3) Love & Community

The need to belong and to both give and receive affection and love within a community.

Need 4) Esteem 

The need for a predictable and consistent positive view of oneself, for self-respect, and to be respected by others, as well as for achievement, adequacy, freedom, independence, recognition, attention, importance, and affirmation.  

Need 5) Self-Actualization

The need for Self-Actualization refers to, as Maslov said, the desire for self-fulfillment, namely, the tendency for one to become more and more what one is, to become everything that one is capable of becoming.

A simple way to apply Maslov's ideas is to assess and reflect on what need might be motivating your goals, habits, and behaviors. 

According to Maslow, every behavior that you have is motivated by one of these five needs.

How motivation works

Have you ever wondered if there’s a universal structure that explains why humans do what we do and why we want what we want?  Is there any organization to the underlying force within us driving our behavior?

If you're familiar with Psychological theories, then you likely have heard of Maslow's hierarchy of needs.  He set out to study this very topic.  In studying human motivation, he developed a theory of 5 basic needs (or goals) that according to his research drive and influence almost all human behavior. 

In his famous paper, A Theory on Human Motivation, he claimed that in order to understand our motivations, we must look not just at our motivated behaviors, which is a nearly endless list, but at the goal under our motivations. In the end, he found only 5 underlying universal needs that encompass the goal of almost every behavior we could act out:

Need 1) Physiological health
The need for normal biological functions that sustain one's life, including but not isolated to hunger, rest, sex, and so on.

Need 2) Safety 
The need for an organized, safe, and predictable world where one can abide freely without the fear of harm, pain, lack, and danger.

Need 3) Love & Community
The need to belong and to both give and receive affection and love within a community.

Need 4) Esteem 
The need for a predictable and consistent positive view of oneself, for self-respect, and to be respected by others, as well as for achievement, adequacy, freedom, independence, recognition, attention, importance, and affirmation.  

Need 5) Self-Actualization
The need for Self-Actualization refers to, as Maslov said, the desire for self-fulfillment, namely, the tendency for one to become more and more what one is, to become everything that one is capable of becoming.

A simple way to apply Maslow's ideas is to assess and reflect on what need might be motivating your goals, habits, and behaviors. 

According to Maslow, every behavior that you have is motivated by one of these five needs.

Bob Lefsetz - This is it

I don’t agree with all of it, but it moved me.

It forced me to think about things I want to avoid and lends answers to questions that everyone in today’s world is pondering...

Enjoy this unique piece by one of my favorite writers and podcasters in the music industry, Bob Lefzetz, called “This is it.”

It's the best thing you’ll read on the internet today.

https://lefsetz.com/wordpress/2019/04/27/this-is-it/

This specific quote really stuck with me and spurred my thinking:

And you think your life is in front of you before it's suddenly behind. Your parents die and then friends die and then you realize it's you next. All the things you were gonna do, the places you were gonna go, it's too late, time's up.

But you don't know all this until it's too late. You're drifting, and then you're hanging on for dear life.

Some people will tell you the truth, but you don't listen, you only realize their wisdom in hindsight.

Like your health is everything... Meaningless when you're in your twenties, everything when you're over fifty.”

Addiction: It's far more common than we realize

What percentage of the American population do you think would claim that they watch an unhealthy amount of Netflix despite wanting to stop?

Or do you think struggles with watching pornography consistently despite wishing they could stop?

How many men and woman do you think are struggling to stop working over-time on the weekends despite the disappointment and pain it brings to their kids and marriage and themselves?

When most of us think of addiction, we often associate it with the most extreme cases, like with alcohol or meth. Yet, addiction is all around us.

It's far more common than we realize.

I love Dr. Gabor Mate’s definition of addiction because almost anyone can relate to it.  He states that “Addiction is any repeated behavior, substance-related or not, in which a person feels compelled to persist, regardless of its negative impact on his life or the lives of others.”

...Been there?

Stuck in a cycle with something that is momentarily relieving, yet harmful over time, and you just can’t stop?

I mean, I would even say that I listen to podcasts at times because it’s more relieving than silence. It gives the sense that I’m moving up in life.... like I’m doing something significant, even if it’s just learning. And yet, I know what my brain really just needs is to catch up in silence.  But still, I turn it on simply to stimulate my brain.

It's minor but you get the point.

Or... Starbucks? What percent of America won’t face their day without their morning cup of caffeine?

Yet we say it’s far off...

We think addiction is for others.

People not like us. 

But collectively, as a society, it’s everywhere. 

So what do we make of it?

As a society, are we despicable? Failing? Or weak?

No, not at all, actually.

Addiction is never a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of pain.

And likely, this is the best way we know how to deal with it.

The question for you, however, if you admit to having your own repeated struggle with a harmful, yet momentarily relieving behavior, is what pain is perpetuating your cravings?  What is it that you are seeking relief from?

Should you believe in your dreams?

Maybe not all of them.

It's important to ask ourselves why exactly are we dreaming?

The motive behind our hopes and dreams can be hidden and more misleading than we often give them credit for.  For example, it’s easy to dream or fantasize when we're lacking self-worth or feeling insignificant, to dream in such a way that our dreams will "save us" from our circumstances and self-limiting beliefs.

Dreams, however, are not meant to be our escape, our savior, or a means to an end for finding internal peace and fulfillment, dreams are meant to be an act of creativity and generosity that flows out of the gift of who we are.

We form our dreams out of what we already have, out of who God made us to be, and what is distinct about our being.

So perhaps the question is not what would you do with your life if money was not a problem? Perhaps the question is what gift would you give to the world from the overflow of who you are if you already had all the praise, attention, wealth, and significance that you desired?

What interesting problem would you help solve in the world?  Where would you contribute and lead? What would you create for us?

From this place alone do I believe dreams flow, and from here and here alone do we live out fully who God made us to be.